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Boston Marriage Counseling, Boston Marriage TherapyWhether your marriage is in crisis, or you want to protect a good thing, read on to learn a research-proven technique that could save your marriage.
You already know about Thrive Boston Marriage Counseling? Call 617-395-5806 to schedule a marital counseling session
What if you woke up tomorrow morning and a miracle had occurred overnight? While you were sleeping, the problems that have been bothering you and your spouse; your job and money, your marriage conflicts, your family issues, your worries, issues in your everyday life—everything was fixed. Take a minute and think about it…
It’s an interesting question, isn’t it? It’s called “The Miracle Question” and it’s often used to help marriage counseling clients, like you,
Does the ‘miracle question’, and your answers to the questions above seem impossible for you and your marriage? You’re not alone. In fact, many people have felt this way. However, what we at Thrive Boston Marriage Counseling have found is that when you begin to identify the core of specific problems in your marital relationship, change can be More Within Reach, and can Happen Faster, than you ever thought possible.
Thrive Boston Counseling - Professional Endorsements
-- Ryan Neace, M.A. Therapist, Central VA
Let me quickly introduce myself and Thrive Boston…
Hello. My name is Dr. Anthony Centore, Director of Thrive Boston Marriage Counseling, and if we were together right now, I would want to make sure that you know one extremely important thing about your marriage-- --That important thing is this: no matter what situation you are in with your marriage, no matter how desperate things might seem, no matter what has happened--your marriage can experience healing.
It might not seem that way right now. If your relationship is in a place of hurt or pain, you are not alone. In fact, we live in times when many relationships are in trouble.
Relationship Problems:
Today, almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. even WORSE is the number of marriages that are in Emotional Divorce or Emotional Separation. Why? Because of the challenges relationships today face. Is your marriage battling any of these common problems.
Do these symptoms sound familiar to you? It is no secret that today, marriages are hurting. It is not uncommon to open a magazine or newspaper these days and see a headline that reads something about "The End of Marriage." It doesn't need to be this way--not for your marriage. The real tragedy is that many marriages suffer for years without getting help, when change is right there at their fingertips. Couples just don't know how to reach out and take it.
"Groundbreaking: Drastically Improve your Marriage with This Relationship-Building Exercise”
World-renowned marriage researcher Doctor John Gottman has developed a practice known as “LOVE-Banking” that helps couples, regardless of their marital problems, build trust and strong relationship.
This is how it works. Think about the way you feel about your spouse as a bank account—it can be either LOADED with funds or overdrawn. And every interaction you have with your spouse is either a “deposit” or a “withdrawal.”
A withdrawal is any conflict, request, demand, or criticism between you and your spouse.
These sound like simple statements, don’t they? Make no mistake—I’m not trying to be dramatic, but they can destroy your marriage. And we haven’t even begun to talk about the arguments, insults, lies, affairs, and serious problems couples often experience.
Withdrawals, without deposits, means the same thing for your marriage as it does for your bank account. It gets empty—fast.
When your money bank account is empty, you start bouncing checks. When your emotional bank account is empty you feel angry, lonely, dreadful, and you feel like being around your spouse make you feel emotionally worse than being apart for him or her.
Does this sound familiar?
Here’s the cure. Dr. Gottman’s research states that your relationship needs to have 5 deposits for every 1 withdrawal to stay healthy. That’s right, you need 5-to-1, it can be tough, but it works.
You make a deposit any time you communicate love or caring for your spouse. There are 5 ways you can do this: Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. They are each described below:
Words of Affirmation This love style uses words to build up the other person. One way to express love is to encourage the other person. With persons who have this love style, even the smallest affirmation goes a long way. Whether spoken or in writing, the goal is that the other person feels affirmed.
Gifts This love style involves tokens of appreciation. Gifts (even inexpensive ones) tell people that they are important and loved. It is not materialistic or selfish. Sometimes thoughts about someone are best communicated in a gift, a tangible reminder of being loved.
Acts of Service This love style involves one persons doing things that another person will appreciate. Even small acts count. Asking what can be done to help a spouse or child, and then responding to small requests, is a great way to begin loving through acts of service.
Quality Time Going to breakfast, sitting on the couch together, having a conversation, and taking a walk; the love style “quality time” is about giving undivided attention to another person. The activity that takes place during the quality time is really unimportant—focusing on the other person is what counts.
Physical Touch An embrace, a kiss, holding hands, and a hand on the shoulder are all expressions of love. At a love style, “physical touch is about tender, caring human contact. Both young and old, people can benefit emotionally from loving physical touch.
It’s best for you to learn what way your spouse best receives love and overdose them with that kind of deposit (for example, some spouses love getting gifts, while other’s think “You’re just buying me stuff because you don’t want to be with me!).
The key though is to make sure you are giving 5 times the deposits than you are giving withdrawals. We teach this to every couples that comes to Thrive Boston Marriage Counseling, and we help clients to practice and perfect this exercise—and more.
"I want my Marriage to Thrive.”
How do you find help when you feel like your marriage, the once-close relationship between you and your spouse, has hit bottom?
How do you heal a marriage when the pain between the two of you seems unbearable? When there is little love left?
(or perhaps your marriage does not look that dark. Maybe you want to make improvement before there is a crisis).
First, I want to congratulate you on taking the first step to finding a marriage counselor. If you are reading this closer that you think to making change happen in your marriage relationship. Maybe it has taken you months to get this far--maybe it has taken years...
I, Dr. Anthony Centore, or an excellent Thrive Boston Marriage Counselor, will walk with you from this point on. From this point on, you and your husband or wife DO NOT struggle alone.
"I am ready to give marriage counseling a shot. My marriage it worth at least that much."Marriage counseling is our specialty. More than 30% of our clients are couples looking to improve or save their relationships.
Thrive Boston Marriage Counselors, every year, help hundreds of couples from the greater Boston area. We serve couples from Harvard University, MIT, Boston University, Tufts, Mclean Hospital, Brigham and Women’s Hospital--many of our clients are some of the top thinkers in the country who trust their most important relationship to the care provided by Thrive Boston Counseling.
At Thrive Boston, we are focused on your marriage goals. Simply put, from the first phone call, to the first time you arrive at our office, you are always respected and treated with sensitive, professional care.
The #1 Complaint We Hear From Clients who have been to Marriage Therapy Before
"My last counselor/life coach listened to me, but he/she didn't really have anything to say to help me." We often hear from new patients that their marriage counselor had good intentions, but didn't help them. You will spend more than your money on therapy--you will invest your time. As is the case with many of our clients, this may be your last stop before divorce court. You want an experienced marriage therapist who will produce results for you and your spouse—a happy marriage that is better than the day you were first married.
“Your First Boston Marriage Counseling Appointment is This Week” (no waiting lists)
We want you to find the help and healing your marriage needs.
You've made it this far, let us walk with you from this point...this point right here...until your marriage is where you want it to be. Until you have reached your relationship goals.
I, and the therapists who work at Thrive Boston Counseling, offer something no other marriage counselors, marriage psychotherapists, marriage and family psychologists, family social workers, or anyone else in the mental health counseling field can or will offer.
Call us today to schedule your first marriage counseling session, and we will schedule your first session for THIS WEEK. Moreover, we often offer new couples seeking care an appointment for the Next Day after they call.
This is something no other marriage counseling practice in Boston, Cambridge, Weston, Wellesley, Waltham, Brighton, Medford, Malden, Melrose, Brookline, or anywhere in the Greater Boston area can offer.
We can only offer this because Thrive Boston Marriage Counselors believe helping you and your spouse get started with the counseling process is so important, that we're willing to keep a few spaces in our schedules open every week to offer this.
The way we see it is like this: You worked up the motivation and courage to begin marriage counseling, the least we can do is help you and your spouse receive your first marriage counseling session right away.
“Yes, you can talk to a Boston Marriage Counselor Today”
There is another reason you need to call Thrive Boston Marriage Counseling.
Call Thrive Boston Marriage Counseling today (really, today) and a master’s level mental health professional will answer the phone, and help you to schedule your first appointment. If you like, you can even talk with a Thrive Counselor before scheduling your first meeting!
In case you missed it, our number is 617-395-5806.
Warmly,
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